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Stewing in Your Own Filth:
“I’m not a fan of baths,” she said, as I stared at her, slack-jawed.
As someone who positively loves reading in the bathtub, her statement just didn’t compute.
But my friend Barb is a smart and thoughtful woman, so I heard her out.
She went on to explain that bathing is like stewing in your own filth, and, as I thought about it, I realized she’s not wrong.
If I put my dirty body into a dirty bathtub and fill it with water, I am pretty much just marinating in my own juices.
While it may feel oh-so-good in the moment, if my goal is to get clean, sitting in grimy water probably isn’t going to get the job done.
I’m not giving up baths by any means, but it did get me thinking about other ways we stew in our own filth.
There are so many things our minds do that feel good (or natural or necessary) in the moment but are actually at odds with our best interests
Do You Have Bad Thoughts
I have a confession... and I hope you'll hear me out before you run screaming, appalled, and hit unsubscribe.
I had an intense urge to kick a dog.
Let me clear, I didn't do it, but I thought about it.
I am, admittedly, not a dog person. But I'm not a monster, either. I was in Puerto Viejo, a cute little beach town in Costa Rica where some dogs just sort of roam around. Maybe they're strays or maybe they have homes and are just off leash. I don't know. What I do know is that they bark at all hours. There I am, lying in bed, trying to get some sleep and unable to because of the incessant barking. I was super annoyed.
And in that moment, my mind did exactly what minds do.
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